What No One Tells You About Motherhood?
Mother’s Day is an opportunity to celebrate and show appreciation for all the efforts and achievements of mothers and mother figures – and the efforts are many let me tell you!
So, in full praise of all Mothers everywhere, let me acknowledge you for some of those most challenging of motherhood roles that you don’t know about until you get there!
The Question Master
Motherhood is a constant stream of decision making and question answering, often without the knowledge or resources required to make them. Oh, and the answers are almost always required immediately. Whether it’s helping with math’s homework, knowing how to make slime, or answering a simple yes or no to ‘can I walk to the shops by myself’, the pressure is unrelenting.
In the business world, there is a term called ‘Decision Fatigue’ which refers to ‘the deteriorating quality of decisions made by an individual after a long session of decision making’ (Wikipedia). This can lead to analysis paralysis, overwhelm, frustration and mental exhaustion, it can also be responsible for the poor choices made late at night in raiding the fridge!
With Motherhood comes an emotional roller-coaster of heart bleeds, heart bursts and hearts stopping as you watch them climb stairs, ride bikes, make the footy team, miss out on a party, lose a loved one, hold your hand and hug you as if you’re the most important part of their life. It’s no wonder most mothers flop into bed like a wrung-out rag at the end of the day.
All mothers I’ve met are experts at playing second fiddle, sometimes third, fourth, fifth or even more. As the quote says “A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.” (Tenneva Jordan) and this about sums it up.
It’s a struggle to put your feet up with a cuppa, read a book, or take yourself off for the weekend with your girlfriends when there is a constant stream of laundry, cooking, cleaning, reading stories and wiping tears. But it is a necessity.
To survive Motherhood you need to look after your own health and well being, as well as that of your family. You also need a never-ending sense of humour, the verbal flexibility of a Russian gymnast and the mental strength of a Zen Master. A glass or two of wine comes highly recommended too.
So Supermums (and yes you are all Supermums) make time this weekend, and every other weekend, to recognize, appreciate and congratulate yourself for all you are doing – and take a break, you deserve it!
Happy Mother’s Day!!
….And of course this is only a snippet of the roles of Motherhood. I’d love to hear from you, what other roles do you play as a mother?